Use the Law of Attraction and get Success, Money….
The latest buzz is the Law of Attraction or lately known and marketed as “The Secret”. The Law of Attraction simply states that you get what you think and feel.
What does that mean ?
Well, if you think about certain things you would like to have, be it success, money or anything else, you focus your mind on it, you get the positive feelings associated with it and you filter the information in your world to pick up everything you need to get it (self-fulfilling prophecy). Co-incidences will occur, which will help you. You might meet people who have just the right information for you, you might find articles or suddenly have ideas which move you towards the vision you created in your thoughts. Is that magic ? It might feel like it, but it is much more basic than that.
In NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) we call this “perception is projection”. NLP has proven that we all see the world differently, no two people have the same view of the world, so everybody’s reality is different even the reality of the exact same thing.
Why is that ? Because we are bombarded with more than 2 Million bits of information every second and each of us take only a fraction of that (plus or minus 7 bits) into our conscious mind. How do we do that ? We filter the information. Have you have ever been to a party with a friend and found that you loved the experience while your friend had a miserable time ? You have both been to the same party ! Or have you moved to a new town or city and found it difficult to settle, while another person moved to the same place at the same time and found it all easy ?
Why is this so ? Because we have different filters, so we take in different parts of the experience and we focus on different things. If you look for the negative in everything even in the good things, you can find it (you might remember those people who always point out the one bad thing in the great stuff that just happened). The opposite is also true. Look for the good in every challenge or indeed disaster that is happening in your life. You will find it too ! This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy. Let me share with you an experiment which was done in the classroom to find out why the best pupils always stayed at the top and worst always stayed at the bottom. Why did the weaker one’s not catch up ? The teacher’s perception of these students (a self-fulfilling prophecy) had a lot to do with it. Two classes were handed over to two separate new teachers (A and B) who had no prior experience with the pupils. Both were briefed on previous performance and ranking of their new pupils, but teacher B was told that 3 students (who were all weaker students) had recently shown exceptional results in a test to measure academic potential. None of this was true. Sure enough, though, those 3 students improved phenomenally during the next school year, while the ranking in class A stayed the same. How was that possible ? Every time the 3 students in class B gave the wrong answer or did not perform as expected, the teacher actively explained it as being an exception to the rule or them having a bad day, because this information did not fit what he believed about the students. If the other weaker students did not perform, he classified it as expected and typical behaviour. Additionally he also reacted very differently to the 3 “special” students. Showed more patience and motivated them more through verbal and non-verbal messages. Such is the power of projection, the power of getting what you believe or focus on.
This is powerful stuff because YOU can choose what you are looking for ! You choose the filter ! You can choose to look for the flaws, the negative or you can choose to look for the good or the learning in everything. I am not sure what you are going for, but I am going for the learning and the positive.
The Law of Attraction has been working for you already, although you might not have been aware of it. Hence it is not a new phenomenon in your life. However, you might not have consciously used it to your advantage yet. In fact, it might have worked against you so far….
Do you often have negative thoughts and negative feelings ? Do you think about the things you DON’T want ? By thinking about them, and feeling angry, annoyed and depressed, you are attracting more of that into your life. Very likely, this is making you more annoyed and depressed which in turn brings you more of it. Nasty cycle, heh ! Break out of it and focus on what you do want. Here is how the process works (and it is really simple !):
1. Be grateful for what you already have.
Focus your mind on all the great things you already have and own. On all the great people in your life. Start a list, you will be surprised, how much will be on it. This will put you in the right frame of mind.
2. Think about what you do want.
Create a picture in your mind about what you want, visualization is a powerful tool to hold the thought. Then make the vision as real as possible, see yourself in it, see yourself smile, enjoy it. Notice everything around you, the environment, the things, the people. Notice the feelings you have when you have achieved what you want. Indulge in it. Really ! Indulge and enjoy it to the full. You will feel fabulous.
To make this even stronger, create a collage of magazine pictures and drawings which reflect your dream, the feelings and ideas. This is called a dream board. So, go on make a collage with different pictures reflecting the material things and feelings you want to have. Cut out pictures from magazines, print them off the internet or use anything else which makes good material for your board. If you can write your thought down, do that. Be specific about what, when, where.
3. Keep thinking the thought regularly.
Set a time every day for you to get in touch with that thought. A great way is to look at your dream board, which you should hang up in a prominent place in your house. Don’t put it in a dark hallway ! Put it somewhere where you see it everyday. And if you have it written down, read it every day.
4. Look out for signs.
Don’t think there is anything mysterious or magical about this. If you CHOOSE to filter the information in your life, such that you want to catch the things that help you achieve your vision, then you will. So become more AWARE. Look out for anything that might help you. Ask yourself after every meeting with friends or business contacts. How is what I have heard helping me with my vision ? Don’t worry if you can’t find the answer immediately. Simply by fine-tuning your receptors to pick up what you need, you will be ready for the opportunities when they arise. If you choose not to pay attention, however, you won’t hear the bell when opportunity rings!
Let me ask you this the other way round. If you are not sure what you are looking for, because you have not defined what you want. How are you going to recognize the opportunity when it comes ? It will simply pass you by.
5. Act on the opportunities when they present themselves.
Finally, grab the information you get, the opportunities you see and follow up on them. There is huge power in action and with every action you take – even the ones you choose to classify as unsuccessful – you will learn something new and perhaps meet someone else who will help you. Your self-esteem will grow, because you have tried ! You will be proud for having tried. Self-esteem comes after action, not before. If you choose not to act, you choose not to have what you want, or to stay where you are.
6. Trust the process and trust yourself.
Believe that you will be successful. If an action does not immediately give you a result, it is only a failure if you give up at that point. If you learn from it and try something different, you will eventually succeed (Edison failed close to 10,000 times and asked how he could cope with so much failure, answered that he had not failed, that instead he had learned almost 10,000 ways not to create a light bulb and had invented a few other things as side products along the way.)
As you keep believing, the Law of Attraction will help you with your endevour. Be aware, though, if you only want to test the concept or if you doubt the process, you might not be able to generate the strong positive feelings described above. Instead your feelings will be full of resistance and doubt.
What do you have to lose anyway ? In the very worst case you will be as well off as you are now. And it costs nothing other than your commitment to the Law of Attraction to take part. Worth a try, isn’t it ?
So is this the same as positive thinking ?
Not really. First of all, the Law of Attraction works for negative thoughts in the same way. What you think will be attracted to you. Secondly, and most importantly, positive thinking alone is not enough to attract the Success or Money you want. You need to think clearly and precisely about what you want AND feel the feelings you would have once you achieved it. It is the feelings which matter. They are also your barometer for how well you are on track.
How can I make myself feel something ? Aren’t feelings the result of events out of my control ?
You might not have been aware of it yet, but you are always in control of your feelings. This is one of the most difficult concepts to grasp and one that is beyond the topic of this article. However, here is a simple proof. Right now, think of the worst moment in your life, can you see what you saw at the time, hear what you heard and feel what you felt ? Now, think of one of the best moments in your life, really think yourself back into that moment, notice how your facials muscles relax, notice what you saw at the time, what people said and how it felt to be there.
If you really went through this exercise, you will have felt two completely different feelings within a matter of seconds. How was that possible ? Well, you created it. You chose to have those feelings because you chose to think about those events from your past. Remembering past events is just one way of influencing your current emotions. Choosing how to look at those past events is another. If someone cuts you off in traffic, you can choose to take it personally and get really angry, start shouting etc. or you can choose to believe that this person is in a terrible hurry, maybe had some bad news etc and shake your head and keep smiling. Your feelings depend on the meaning you give the event, not the event itself.
Common Mistakes & Watch-Outs
1. Be specific in what YOU want. Don’t just ask for money. You might find a penny on the street. Ask exactly for what you want, when you want it. And make sure what you want is about YOU.
2. State your goal in positive terms. Think about what you do want, not about what you don’t want or you will get more of THAT ! “I want to get rid of my debt” gets you more debt, because it is debt you are thinking of.
3. Feel about what you want as if you already have it now. When you visualize your wants and dreams, feel into what you would feel if you had it already (just do “as if”). If you only intensify the desire to have it in the future, your dreams will stay in the future (“I am enjoying my house on the beach” rather than “I wish I had a house on the beach”)
3. Suspend your dis-belief. Choose to believe. What do you have to lose ? Worst case, you are back to were you are right now. Sounds like a bargain to me !
TRY IT OUT ! Many people throughout history from Winston Churchill to Henry Ford have used the LAW OF ATTRACTION to their advantage.
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