How to worry and be (un)happy
Do you worry a lot ? Do you lose sleep over things that might (not) happen tomorrow ? Does your brain constantly focus on what could go wrong and then worry about it, not giving you a rest ? You will be happy to know that you are not alone. In fact, worrying is more common than you might think. So let me prove to you that it is totally pointless to worry about tomorrow’s problems today.
Worries are the anti-thesis to happiness. They distract you from enjoying life and the NOW – the only time to experience happiness. Here is why ALL worries are wasted:
40% of worries are about events that will never happen
30% of worries are about events that have already happened
22% of worries are about trivial events
4% of worries are about events we cannot change
4% of worries are about real events on which we can act
(and these are also wasted because we can control them)
Next time you find yourself despairing, ask yourself these questions:
1. Have I got enough air to breathe ?
2. Have I got enough food for today ?
3. Am I going to survive ?
If the answer is YES, things are already looking up !
So often, we magnify things out of proportion. The worst thing that could happen is probably very inconvenient, but not the end of the world.
Have a look at the story of the man who phoned Dr. Robert Schuller. Here is the how the conversation went:
The man said, “It’s over. I’m finished. All my money has gone. I’ve lost everything.”
Dr. Schuller asked, “Can you still see ?”
The man replied, “Yes, I can still see.”
Dr. Schuller asked, “Can you still walk ?”
The man replied, “Yes, I can still walk.”
Schuller said, “Obviously you can still hear of you wouldn’t have phoned me.”
“Yes, I can still hear.”
“Well,” Schuller said, “I figure you have got about everything left. All you have lost is your money !”
To overcome the worry trap you need to trust that you are meant to learn things. Rather than shying away from things, take more risks. You might learn something.
Start by being grateful for what you have.
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