Are you your own biggest obstacle to positive CHANGE ?
Just came across this great tale again. It is about being in charge about change and I had to share it with you:
“Two men were working together on a building site. When lunchtime came, they sat down at the side of the road, and opened their respective lunchboxes. The first man, on looking into the box, rubbed his hands together gleefully and said, ‘Great! I’m starved. Chicken, cheese and tuna sandwiches, crisps, a nice piece of fruit…’
The second man looked at the contents of his box and sighed heavily. “Oh no, not ham again ! I can’t believe it. That’s the third time this week I’ve had ham sandwiches. I ‘m getting sick and tired of seeing ham.’
‘Come on, cheer up,’ soothed his mate. ‘Look, if you’re so sick of ham sandwiches, why don’t you just ask your wife to use something else ?’
His mate looked puzzled. ‘What are you talking about ?’ he said. ‘I don’t have a wife; I make my own sandwiches.’”
Have you caught yourself complaining about your situation ? Are you dreaming about better times but feel it is unattainable ? Stop right there. Let’s play. What if the only obstacle in the way to your dreams and your happiness were YOU ? Really, don’t say no no no. Consider this for a moment. Pretend it ! Just for the fun of it.
Who is in charge of your life ? Who would you like to be in charge ? What would it take ? What is the worst case that could happen ? Imagine it…. What would you gain and what would you lose ? Looking back from 20 years into the future, what would you want to see ?
If you want things to change, be bold ! Change them, don’t let them change YOU !
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November 6th, 2008 at 6:46 am
I don’t feel like I am in control of my life, because I have vowed to help my son reach independence before I chase after my dreams. My son is physically disabled (sort of like Christopher Reaves). He is highly intelligent, likable, and a great writer. For him to be independent requires 24/7 professional care. That doesn’t come cheap, so until he can afford it, I will be the one to cover hours we can’t afford to hire someone else to work. Did I have to make this choice? Noone said I had to. But I love my son, and I see his potential. He will change the world! To leave him before he is ready would be harsh and unfair. He knows how I feel, and he loves me for it. He is trying to “pay his own way” as quickly as he can by earning money on internet jobs. For now, we are a team, so we have to work together. But it saddens me to continue, because my youth is gone and I fear I will not have time left to accomplish my dreams. For now, he and I are accomplishing all that we can towards our dreams together. But we are vastly different with different dreams. I know the day will come when he won’t need me so much, but I’ve waited a very long time. Courage, patience, and love come at a cost. As much as I feel out of control of my life, at the same time, I couldn’t-wouldn’t choose to do it differently.
May 24th, 2010 at 9:02 pm
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